Tag Archives: marriage

Episode 113: What’s In A Name? – I Now Pronounce You, Mr. & Mrs. Uhh? w/ Miss April Speaks

There you are about to enter the reception hall. You hear the DJ say his announcement “and now for the first time ever, I present to you —“; the doors open. “Mr & Mrs (Fill in the blank).” What do you want to be called? Do you have your new married man or are you keeping your surname? Now more then ever that question is up for debate when it used to a non issue. What happened? Is it a sign of the times? An Archaic trope? Is it disrespectful to not take the new “family” name or is it just as disrespectful to assume that your new wife would? “A rose by any other name would smell as sweet” – William Shakespeare. We’ll see about that! Tune in to see what this trio had to say on the subject! Continue reading

Advertisements
Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 106: Is Marriage A Bad Investment? w/ Randy & Miss April Speaks

We got a packed house this episode because it is such a hot topic that we couldn’t do it alone. FINALLY, it’s the two people that we’ve been trying to get on at the same time meeting for the first time EVER! We were waiting for the fisticuffs to fly between our guests but little did we know, the tables would turn and it would be the HOSTS that would be in the heat of battle! One guest even got some verbal jabs in to prove their point. Was it justified or was insecurity at play? Was it “Tough Love” or a battle royale? What in the blue hell could have gotten us all riled up? You’re gonna have to tune in to find out!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 98: An International Love Affair w/ SUPER FAN Sam

We did things a little differently this episode. We invited one of our faithful listeners on the show! Besides fan-girling out, she gives a live Q & A, what she likes about the show and also shares her story worthy of a BLB stamp of ‘WTF?!’. Come listen as we feel the love from the internets!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , ,

Episode 95: Seeing Eye to Eye to “I Do” – Does Your Parent’s Vision of a Partner Match Your Own?

“No one is good enough for my daughter!” “I’m not gonna let some floosie take away my son!” YIKES! Have you come across statements like that in your life? These might be exaggerated but unfortunately they DO exist in some form or another. If you’re thinking about being in relationship (or already in one), there might be a chance that your parents won’t like your significant other. They might have had someone totally different in mind for you. So what do you do with that? Do you try to find someone that suits their wishes for you? Or do you just go with your gut and let your heart decide? Could there be a chance that your parent’s vision for a partner can match your own? Tune in to see what we think on the matter!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 94: From Dating to Ratings – Is Reality TV Killing The Sanctity of Marriage? w/ Randy

Marriage was everything back in the day. It was such a pinnacle point in one’s life to have pride and joy in. Now-a-days, marriage seems like something you do when you’re bored on a Saturday night. With shows like “Married At First Sight”, “90 Day Fiance”, & “The Bachelor/(ette)”, people have been complaining that these shows make the sacred act of joining people for the rest of their lives into a farce. These shows make the ceremony or act to be trivial and flippant. While the shows are entertaining because their trainwreck premises, could their be truth to the complaints? Are these shows ruining the sanctity of marriage or is this just the sign of the times of how marriage is viewed by the populace? Tune in and see what we think!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , ,

Episode 93: Delusions or Solutions to Your New Year’s Resolutions

Well, well, well… it’s that time of year again! A year of reflecting and getting ready for the new year. Jenn & I makes our wish list for 2018 and also we take a look back to see if we kept our promises from 2017 as well. Do you keep your resolutions or just toss them to the wind once the ball drops? Tune in to see what we have to say about you keeping up with your list!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , ,

5 Years.

Today marks 5 years since the day that my ex-fiancé broke up with me. The date is not something that I keep track of, but it’s not exactly something that I can forget either. Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 88: With This Ring, I Me Wed – Is Sologamy Empowering Or Embarrassing? w/ Kathy Iandoli

Solo. Its definition is “a thing done by one person unaccompanied, in particular” but, depending how you look at it, can be taken different ways. Usually solo is looked at negatively. You’re by yourself, you’re doing this workload alone, there’s no one here to comfort you in your sorrows, etc. But now, particularly women, are reclaiming it to be a positive term. Sologamy has been trending for some time and now it’s at the forefront as something people might want to consider. Others see it as a cry for help and a look for desperation. Which side of the coin do you fall under? Listen in as Jenn, myself and our special guest Kathy discuss what this whole new wave is.  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 75: Is “Sowing Your Wild Oats” Necessary On the Journey to Finding Love?

Don’t give me that face. What? You’ve never asked yourself that question before? Well, yeah.. it’s not the FIRST thing to come to mind when talking about love, sure. But it is something to look back and think on. Do you feel you got enough experience out of life before thinking about taking the big plunge of commitment? I’m not necessarily talking about learning the Kama Sutra front and back, but do you feel you need to have a stage in life where you go through your wild years before settling down and getting that side out of your system?

He’s another wrench in the mix: What if you feel you missed that opportunity? How does life fare for you now? What do you do? Can you make it up this late in the game? What should you do? Are you scared to settle because you might have that urge down the line? Famed Comedian Patrice O’ Neal said you have to womanize before settling down or you’ll end up like Tiger Woods and that ‘side’ of you will come out eventually and we all saw what happened to him. Does he have validity in his statement or is it all hogwash? Sit back and enjoy Jenn & I trying to figure it out!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , ,

Episode 66: Finding The One After “The One” w/guest Jorge

If you’ve ever been in love, “I think s/he’s the one!” might’ve been said once or twice in your life. You’ve probably also said “Man, I THOUGHT they were the one” a couple times too. We’ve all been there. When the stars align and you think to yourself, “this is it… I found them.” Then something happens and *POOF* the stars burst into a million fragments (just like your heart) and your future life ceases to exist. You’re stuck in limbo, and you don’t know how to move forward, and you will most certainly never love again. That is until someone else comes along and rewrites your purpose in life and makes you believe again. How do you get from point A to B? How does the new ‘One’ makes us love again? How did we get the previous ‘One’ sooo WRONG? 3 Trains Of Thought on this episode where I had a ‘One’, Jenn has had a ‘One’ & considers her boo THE ‘One’, and our guest and a ‘One’ and married his new One. Please take heed as our guest tells his story from downtrodden to triumphant about how he got from one ‘One’ to the next and how he’s never looked back. Also he gives us advice on what to do when we’re in our own limbo as well. Take a listen!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , ,

Episode 56: Your Friends & Your Dating Life – Are They Helpful or a Handful?

Would you go out with a person based on the decision of your friend? How much of a sway do your friends have in your relationships? Should they have any at all? Do they have your best interests in mind, or could there be a hidden agenda? Friend or #FOH (F@&K OUTTA Here!)?  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , ,

Letter Jackets & Going Steady – Forget Chivalry, is Commitment Dead?

I wasn’t born during the time of the sock hop, malt shakes and the Sadie Hawkin’s dance. Despite Johnny Rocket’s efforts to time warp us back to that era, I can only get a sense of the era through movies and TV and campfire stories from people. From what I gather, it was real cool to be in a relationship back then because things mattered.  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 54 – Am I Not Good Enough?

“Why don’t they like me?” “Why do I keep losing partners?” “Why can’t we go further?” “Aren’t I worth it?” are all questions that have crossed our minds one point or another during our dating career. All familiar questions we ask ourselves to find out if there’s anything “wrong” with us. Whether there is or not is another topic, but the point is, are we really not up to snuff for our partners or are we fooling ourselves into thinking as such? Are we actually good enough and this lull is just a “mind-over-matter” thing or are we delusional and we really need to get some work done internally? Tune in and see what Jennifer & I have to say!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 49: Holidays with Your Honey – “Joy to The World?” or “Run, Rudolph, Run!” w/ guests Chris & Weldon from “The Way We See It” Podcast

Yes… it’s the end of the year, so “t’is the season”! But which season is it? The season of merriment or “decking” someone’s balls.. i mean halls? Yes, it’s that time of the year where everything is amazing and annoying at the very same time and now you have a signficant other right in the thick of it all too. “Where do you go for the Thanksgiving?” “Didn’t we go there for Christmas last year?” “Can’t we stay home?” “Where are we opening gifts?” “Do we exchange gifts in the first place? We just met…” etc etc…  Bah Humbug! But seriously what do you do to settle the winter woes? We have a full house oday as Chris & Weldon from “The Way See It” podcast joins us to discuss what in the hell do we do this holiday.  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 44 – Does “The One” Really Exist?

When dealing with love and relationships, We’ve all heard about “The One”. The One that will take the pain away. The one that will make all the stuff you went through worth it. The One that was meant for YOU and you ALONE. Is there someone out there in the world specifically for you? Do they even really exist? If you find someone, how do you know they are it? Was the one you feel you were destined for really in that close proximity of you this whole time, or do you just pick somebody and just give it a go? Is it magic? Or Just Matter of Fact? Have a listen and see what we think.   Continue reading

Tagged , ,

Episode 34: Are You in LOVE? Or “in love” with Love?

Now THAT’s a slippery slope of a question but one we have to ask ourselves at times. Do you know the difference? When you try and look for a significant other, what do you look for? Things to benefit the overall relationship or things that benefit you? Are you looking to get married because you can’t wait to spend time with your spouse or you just want to be a spouse? What are you working towards in a relationship? What is your end goal when it comes to getting a significant other and finding love? We asked ourselves these questions and we came up with some good conclusions but also some scary realizations were brought to light. Listen in and see what they were!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , ,

Episode 32: Our Love At a Crossroads – Does Your Blueprint Match my Blueprint to Build a Future?

In dating, we’re so quick to jump from one thing to next to get to that next level, we rarely slow down to see if we can keep the relationship from falling apart along the way. We’re so quick to jump from friends to fiances and setting a date, we haven’t even checked to see if a foundation has been set. Are our goals aligned? Do we want the same things out of life? Do you want kids? Do you want to live in a rural or urban environment? West coast or East coast? Down south or overseas? Apartment, house/townhouse or live on a boat? Will religion be a factor in our lives? Are you willing to have those conversations? Have you had them or you don’t want to ruin a good thing by getting bogged down by reality? Let’s get in the bed and start talking!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 30: Relationships & Social Media – Should We Worry About the Web?

“Likes”, Relationship statuses, “Pokes” and comments used to be a thing of innocence. But now, they could be the catalyst of a relationship headed south. Why do we get so hung up social media? Why do we feel some type of way we see our man liking a girl’s pic on instagram? Why do we get jealous when see a guy comment of our favorite pic of our girlfriend on FB? Why did I receive a “poke” from a person I don’t know on our shared account? Should we put so much weight into these platforms? Aren’t these apps supposed to be bringing us together? Then why the hell does it seem that they are tearing us apart? When did our networks run “us”? We got a full house this week and all with different perspectives on the matter. Tune in and hear us out!
Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 28: Is There Ever A “Good” Reason To Cheat?

We know, we know… what a preposterous question to ask! But that’s what we do, get to the nitty gritty of things and discuss. We’re not saying if there’s a “good” reason then by all means go for it. But we wonder why do people cheat even when they know it’s a bad thing to do. What exactly is justifiable for the act of betraying a loved one’s trust? Something’s up, so Jennifer & I come together and try to figure what that could possibly be.  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 26: In Sickness & In Health – How Your Wellness can affect the Healthiness of Your Relationship

We hear that phrase all the time. Whether it’s on TV being said between our favorite characters, in the movies during the 3rd act, or right in front of us during our best friend’s day. “In sickness & in health” is part of the vow that truly doesn’t resonate with people until it actually occurs in the relationship/marriage. Once it does that’s when our bond is tested the most and that’s where we see if we can handle the pressure of being someone else rock, or crumble under the weight of responsibility. Even way before we walk down the aisle, we can be called upon during the relationship to be strong for our partner. In this week’s episode we have some stories where people rose to the occasion, and some that just fell by the wayside and completely lost their partnership potential. Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 21: Being Divorced – A Journey From Broken to Breaking Free

On this episode our guest shares her amazing story about her roller coaster of a matrimony and life after her breakup. From Infidelity and insecurities to insight and empowerment (and everything in between), she recounts her lowest points to her biggest triumphs to date. Listen and see how one woman pulled herself together after her train wreck of a marriage.  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 19: From First Date to Save The Date – Blind Date aka “Nice To Meet You, And You Are?”

What happens when you watch too much of {The And} and you want to be like them? You do one of their experiments on your friends! So we had a couple of firsts happen on this episode. First #1: We had our 1st returning guest ever, Brigid from last week’s episode! First #2: We had a long time listener finally make his debut appearance on the show, Arvie! Finally First #3, we had a blind date between the both of them on the show! What were we thinking?! Craziness ensues on this episode as we try and emulate one of our favorite things about The Skin Deep‘s “Human Connection” experiments. Do we do a good job or do we crash and burn? Regardless of the outcome, it was fun as hell! Enjoy the ep!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , ,

Episode 16: Bitterness, Jealousy, and Envy: The Side Effects of Being… in LOVE?!

Bitterness, Jealousy and Envy? When did these go hand in hand with love? I thought love was supposed to bring you happiness, joy & butterflies? As Jennifer says in this episode “Who told you that?” Haha. Got to admit, she has a point. When dealing with love, all sorts of emotions run rampant and is not limited to only just one side of the spectrum. Yes, love can bring out the positives and well as the negatives in you. Our guest today (who suggested the topic) has every right to be negative but surprisingly stays positive. Listen in and hear his incredible story of Love, Lust, Loss, & Living lifeContinue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 14: Marriage – Do You Have The Balls (& Chain) For It? w/ guests (and married couple) Nubia & Vision

For the past couple of episodes (since ep 9) we’ve gone on this roller coaster of a relationship ride. Discussing the nice guy/bad boy aspect, to failing in love, to trying again online, to possibly moving in with a significant other. So, for this episode we wanted to talk about that final step and whether on not we’re prepared for it. Since Jenn nor I are married (and only have a limited idea of what it can entail), we reached out to a couple who could help us out more on that front. They been married for 10 years and have been a couple for close to 20 and they’ve been through it ALL:  “Other women” to the ONLY woman, break-ups to babies, holy shit to holy matrimony and everything in between! This couple knows what it means to endure and they got the scars to prove it, literally! What are you waiting for? Take a listen of their labor of Love. Don’t forget to Rate, Review, Share and Subscribe! Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Episode 13: Moving In – Do it Before or After Marriage?

This episode Jenn & I discuss what many long standing couples may have to weigh in on during their courtship. Do we move in now or later? While some consider moving in to be the next chapter of their relationship, others just might see it as convenience having their significant other living with them and that’s all there is to it. Wuh-oh. Now, this isn’t meant to be a right or wrong debate, but it is a debate none the less. Tune in and hear us out. What’s your take on the subject? Let us know. Also, Share & Subscribe. Happy Listening!  Continue reading

Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,
Advertisements