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5 Years.

Today marks 5 years since the day that my ex-fiancé broke up with me. The date is not something that I keep track of, but it’s not exactly something that I can forget either. Continue reading

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Dating At The Speed(force) of Light – Pt. 2

Well, I did it… 12 hours later, and I survived! I got to tell you, what an interesting experience that was.  Continue reading

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Dating At The Speed(force) Of Light – Pt. 1

To bolding go where no Martini has gone before…

I’m going speed dating y’all and as you heard on episode 83, I am both nervous and excited. Actually, I’m glad I’m doing it because this is a long time coming. I’ve always been fascinated by the concept of speed dating, and also, it’s going to be geek oriented/themed so it’s to my advantage. But the real main reason why I’m glad to really put myself out there is because I might finally find someone, but more so… finally find someone along the lines of who I am. Someone who will complement me as opposed to conforming to their way of life.  Continue reading

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Fall into it…or fall out..?

So I know I haven’t shared in awhile, but to commemorate the beginning of my favorite season I figured I’d just share and maybe get some advice from you!!

Today I felt frustrated cause I learned that I am too loyal.
Is that a thing?
Apparently.

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Stress to Impress…

There’s an article I read suggesting what qualities women should possess that Men should add to their ‘Marriage Material’ list, and within that list something really hit home. Continue reading

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Letter Jackets & Going Steady – Forget Chivalry, is Commitment Dead?

I wasn’t born during the time of the sock hop, malt shakes and the Sadie Hawkin’s dance. Despite Johnny Rocket’s efforts to time warp us back to that era, I can only get a sense of the era through movies and TV and campfire stories from people. From what I gather, it was real cool to be in a relationship back then because things mattered.  Continue reading

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I’m tired of not being good enough.

New year, but in no way am I happy. Sure, with the new year upon us I can “wash away the past”, and I get it… it’s a good mantra to have. But 2016 apparently had one more lesson it wanted to drive home:

YOU.

ARE.

NOT.

GOOD.

ENOUGH.

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The Beauty of Betrayal

Check out this great write up from Miss April Speaks about betrayal and forgiveness.. ♡♡♡

Miss April Speaks

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Betrayal is an ugly word but when you look up from the depths of despair in which betrayal may make you fall—you may see a rainbow. If you’ve never been betrayed– here’s how it works, for those of you that have, just come on this journey with us for a minute:

  1. You discover you’ve been betrayed by a friend, romantic partner, family member, etc.
  2. You are hurt because you feel like you would never have betrayed that person.
  3. You are angry for the same reason as #2.
  4. You likely get an apology that is hard for you to believe is genuine.
  5. You contemplate forgiveness.
  6. You forgive or not, either way you are still angry.
  7. You no longer trust the person.  If you have forgiven them you are in the process of trying to rebuild trust.
  8. You build a wall around your heart and mind because you want to believe you…

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The Quest Within, Pt 5: Fail… to Succeed

So we’re at the final leg of the quest so let’s recap. Continue reading

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The Quest Within, Pt 4: Stop Enabling A**holes

(I mentioned this blog on Episode 16)

So semi-regularly I listen to a podcast called Guys We Fucked and it’s great. It’s about 2 women who are sexually liberated and don’t mind talking about their escapades on air Continue reading

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The Quest Within, Pt 3: “Don’t Ever Change”

Sometimes when I look at myself, I wonder when did I miss the bus to “Man-Ville?” I wonder about the equation of how many of us males end up like I am or just lost overall. So I started thinking and thought a big factor would have to have been how we grew up.  Continue reading

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The Quest Within, Pt 2: Acceptance

There’s a slight misconception throughout society that I’d like to discuss. Whether it’s in TV, movies, or literature, it’s commonly portrayed that women are the only ones that pine for that ‘one person’ to notice them. Thankfully movies like The Girl Next Door, Superbad, & Scott Pilgrim vs. The World, show that guys also share in the ‘fight for acknowledgement’ though to different degrees. Whereas the female in question wants to end up with her beau and live happily ever after, the male in question just wants to be noticed. Period.  Continue reading

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The Quest Within, Pt 1: Confidence

For as long as I’ve been living, when it came to life (but mostly women) everybody has always said to me that you got to have confidence. All you need is confidence. Once you have confidence, the world is your oyster. Confidence, confidence, CONFIDENCE. After all these years you know what I have to say about that? FUCK confidence.  Continue reading

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A “how to” on why you should get down with me (and over thinkers like me)

Well, well, well… this comes as a shock. An actual positive article about over-thinkers? Never thought I’d see the day. People always have a negative comment to say once they think your over-thinking is an issue: Continue reading

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What comes after: The Uncertainty of Self

“So tell me, where shall I go? To the left, where nothing’s right.. or to the right, where nothing’s left?” – Higher Perspective

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A “How To” Transcript on How to Get Down With Me… (and Alpha Chicks Like Me)

So since heading back into the dating scene I have never been so definitive about what I want and need. I have come to the conclusion that I honestly don’t NEED a partner (Man). But having someone to share all the highs and lows of the week with would be nice. As previously discussed I don’t really let guys do things for me (re: to Episode 1 of the Podcast). This can sometimes be seen as  emasculating or bitchy. Neither is my end game.

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Warning: Labels May be Hazardous to Your… Relationship?

Upon talking to my friend the other day, something came to fruition that we uncovered about myself and apparently… I have a thing about labels.

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Can I Be Naked?

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So one day, Jenn links me to this article and is like “definitely wanna podcast this, I’ll write it up tonight”. I’m all for it and then I see the headline “How To Plan A Kinky Vacation (Without Her Freaking Out) and I know I was gonna walk into some shenanigans. Fortunately it was a very in depth article recounting a female’s reluctance (and then overall enjoyment) of her going on a kinky vacation and it turning out to be a great trip. Then Jenn asked me the question, “would you ever go?” and that got me thinking – in more ways than one. Continue reading

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So Question? Can You JUST F@#k The Person You Love?

So can we? Can you? Can I? I read this article just to get my brain kick started and get some of these blogs rolling out. Didn’t think it would resonate at all, but of course the Pisces in me swam on out.

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